Divorced. Detached. Disconnected
Three words that are probably the most antagonistic words to describe what was once something sacred.
When a relationship reaches this stage, it usually takes a fair bit of heartache to get to this point.
I reached this breaking point recently. I had enough of feeling alone, and void of emotion. Something just had to give, the pain and isolation of not being able to communicate and resolve the issue had taken it’s toll.
What was I going to do?
You’re probably thinking I’m talking about marriage or relationship of the physical kind.
I’m talking about when your souls purpose doesn’t align with what you’re actually doing.
That kind of disconnect cuts deeper than any external relationship. I walked around for years, not really aware of how deep the divide actually went.
It kinda creeps up on you.
In fact I loved feeling so detached from the emotions of youth.
How liberating to be free of the emotional rollercoaster ride of my twenties. Isn’t this what being all grown up means?
Letting go of the silly stuff and not letting things bother us, right?
Well kinda sorta. I’m pretty laid back by nature.
What I mean by that is that I don’t do drama or gossip so anything that remotely resembles this, instantly takes me to zone out world. This leaves me with the challenge of working out what is worthwhile delving into and what is just water off a ducks back.
So here I found myself lonely, bored and dispirited, craving something deeper. Looking from the outside in, my life has never been better – business is going great guns.
It dawned on me that only I could change this horrid situation. And after many intuitive nudges, it was now time to peel away that last, thick, stubborn layer that I have used as my protection for years.
I realize that I no longer need it.
IT needs ME!
The ego needs to feel important, busy, strong and all-knowing. But spirit aahhh now that’s another story.
I asked for guidance and now I was receiving. It’s feels like I am re-connecting with a long lost friend. Someone who has been here all along that I have neglected.
I’m not going all woowoo on you now but as a Zen Hustler, spirituality is an important part of how I run my life and build my business.
Whilst I believe in the basics of LOA (Law Of Attraction) I also strongly believe in taking action ie Hustling. Combine the two together and THIS my friend is a powerful combo.
One doesn’t work without the other, much like willing money to fall down from the sky won’t work unless you’re doing something about it.
On the flip side, if you are taking action, but you really don’t believe deep down that you can actually do it – then you probably won’t.
I am persistent, and devoted to my passion and that is to help women find their voice and create a soulful authentic business with their own flavour.
This is what pushes me to delve deeper. How can I lead this gorgeous tribe of women who have so much to offer the world if I can’t dig deep and show them that regardless of how fragmented they feel, it’s not forever.
For a go getter like me, I have had to make time to just. be. I got so caught up in the doing, that I forgot about the being.
Busy busy busy does not equal productivity.
Being vulnerable doesn’t mean your weak.
Speaking your truth doesn’t make you a bitch.
Have a think about why you’re not feeling that wholeness.
Where are you holding back gorgeous?
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Monique Alamedine is a Writer + Intuitive Biz Coach + Life Strategist who believes that ‘success’ means being calm, centred & crazy ambitious – all at the same time.
She calls this being a Zen Hustler – and is on a mission to help you become one too.
She helps women in retail & service business make money doing what they love while ‘keeping it real’. Ain’t no sugar-coated fluff coming out of this Mumma’s mouth – expect straight from the heart home truths delivered with a big serving of love.
As a Zen Hustler, she mixes intuitive readings with kick-ass business strategy. Email Hustle@ZenHustler.com