I have a confession to make.
My name is Monique and……..
I am the girl who cried wolf.
When these words first escaped from my mouth, a sense of relief and peace washed over me.
Here I was the glam, proud, successful Business Blingstress admitting to weakness.
But you see herein was my problem. The fact that I could not admit. Could not accept. Could not be vulnerable. What did I do instead of owning my shit?
Well….I was always mesmerized by those Bright Shiny Objects (BSO) that would somehow find me in my darkest hour and seduce me into believing that ‘it’ was going to be my saving grace.
There was always this great new idea that I had which was going to be THE next biggest thing in my life or that I somehow needed to buy the latest program that was just released because I didn’t have enough resources or information already or the best one was the procrastination of ‘needing’ to get everything right, or having the right tools to start. Puhhhleeesse!
Once again, all bullshit!
If you’re honest with yourself, I’m sure you have done this at some point too. And some of you may still be there. There is no judgement on either part, just experience that I can share with you.
By embracing this path of awareness and allowing myself to immerse into it completely, I feel like I understand the true meaning of liberating empowerment. In the past I thought I was playing fullout and that I was the victim because people just didn’t understand me. They just weren’t visionaries like me – that’s all. B fricken S!
The day I realized and openly admitted to my Husband that I was the girl who cried wolf was such an emotional turning point for me.
Y’all know about the major breakthroughs I experienced with my Mentors. As a result, I now feel a strong urge to share my journey, so you too can see that all that glitters ain’t gold, and to give you an inside peak into the mind of a reformed perfectionists mind. I am so happy to have moved passed double, triple and quadriple checking something hundreds of times. Even Blog posts used to take me days. I recall my first blog post taking me about a week to write, the pictures had to be perfect and I even created alot of the graphics. Fast forward to today and this blog post you’re reading has taken a matter of hours not days. Now THAT is a proud moment for me, no more sitting on it and waiting for some outside entity to tell me it was ok. These are MY thoughts and feelings, so why the hell was I seeking external validation?! Go figure.
Where do you feel stuck gorgeous? Can I ask you to look within yourself first before blaming others or looking for them to save you and then feeling more helpless or disheartened when there is no knight in shining armor?
When a cycle keeps repeating itself again in your life, it’s a warning for you to take action. There is no point in doing the same thing and expecting the outcome to be different this time. By chopping and changing you don’t harness that energy into one cause, so you never nurture it enough to give it a strong foundation to start with.
Letting go of the need to be right, is right up there with forgiveness and gratitude. Be honest with yourself sweetness, have you been giving 100% focus and dedication to your project?
Bashing Your Head Against A Brick Wall Is Easier.
How many times have you said, this time will be different? This time I will complete this program. This time I will wake up early. This time I will create my new product. This time (fill in the blanks) then all of a sudden it’s 12 months down the track and you have done diddly squat of what you said you were going to do.
If you aren’t ready to share it with anyone, just at least admit it to yourself gorgeous. Have you too been the girl who cried wolf, and now that you are legitimately serious nobody is actually taking you seriously?
That’s what ended up happening with my hubby, he got so tired of hearing about my latest brainwave that by the time the ‘real deal’ had landed in my brain it just sounded like another distraction that I had created to him.
I remember a few years back, during another procrastination period. Mr Handsome by this point was at his wits end about how to move me along, looked at me with compassion and understanding and asked me – what are you afraid of honey?
I realized that I was afraid of my own success. I know that sounds weird or to some perhaps cliched – but it’s the truth. In my warped mind, success had all these complications that went with it. So I want you to ask yourself the same question – what are YOU afraid of?
Are you the boy (girl) who is crying wolf too?
You need to know that it can all change in a heartbeat.
I used to be the most easily distracted person. I love innovations and new ideas. In fact that’s why I built my business this way, because I get to vicariously live through my clients. It’s just a case of finding what’s right for you and creating a business around what you LOVE!
I see so many people do it the other way around, they create their business and then conform for their business. Whereas the opposite is true – Create a business around who you are. Regardless of whether you provide a product or service.
Just like you do a business plan or a checklist, why not take the time to do a ‘life check’ list?
Whatever you decide, just commit to it in every sense of the word and don’t forget to have fun!
All my love
Monique Alamedine is a Writer + Intuitive Biz Coach + Life Strategist who believes that ‘success’ means being calm, centred & crazy ambitious – all at the same time.
She calls this being a Zen Hustler – and is on a mission to help you become one too.
She helps women in retail & service business make money doing what they love while ‘keeping it real’. Ain’t no sugar-coated fluff coming out of this Mumma’s mouth – expect straight from the heart home truths delivered with a big serving of love.
As a Zen Hustler, she mixes intuitive readings with kick-ass business strategy. Email Hustle@ZenHustler.com