The whole world was against me. There were insurmountable obstacles and I was drowning in my own self-limiting beliefs.
Where was that light at the end of the tunnel?
God, Jesus, Buddha, Archangel Michael. All the saints and the prophets. Where are you in my time of need?
What’s a girl to do when there is nowhere to hide from these fear based and debilitating thoughts.
Well in my case I was fortunate enough to be called on my shit by my fricken awesome Mentors. They smashed through EVERY single one of my perceived ‘problems’. When all is said and done, all outcomes have been based on choices that I have made.
They made me realize how much I had been looking for others to save me. WTF, really?! I mean I am strong, independant and proud, so HOW could I be looking for others to save me? It just couldn’t be.
In that moment I clearly saw how I had given away my power to all these external factors, my Husband, Parents, Mentors, Siblings, Friends. Here I was giving away my power with excuses like, I am a Mum, I have to help everyone, I need to run a household, I have duties and obligations to be a great Sister/Mum/Daugher/Wife.
Once again, I thought I was going to learn High Level Marketing Strategies and Sales and walked away with a helluva lot more. They did tell me that everybody gets what they came for during this intensive 9 day program. I thought that meant making more sales, but it turns out that erasing the shit stuff made way for me to make actual sales – on a deeper level. A level that was coming from a loving space not a fear based place. Where I could lovingly call my clients on their bullshit too.
What a revelation!
Why do you think it’s not the right time to expand or invest in yourself? What’s the ‘excuse’ you’re feeding yourself? One thing I am sure of is that you can and will create whatever you believe. I hear people sometimes say to me, it’s not in my nature to make a snap decision, I need time to think about it. Well do you realize that THAT is a decision in itself?
Everyday we make choices, they can empowering or discouraging. It’s up to you which way you go, there is no judgement. But for God’s sake, DO NOT complain. It doesn’t matter where you were up to this point, what matters is where you go from here. One of my favourite movies that illustrates this is Sliding Doors with Gwyneth Paltrow. You get to see two different versions of how her life progressed, based on whether she caught an earlier train. Now I am not saying that you need to start analyzing every detail like when to get on a train, because it goes so much deeper than this. It’s a metaphor for the choices we need to make EVERYDAY in life.
Are you going to choose to do it the easier way, through love, self-respect and discipline or go down the fearful path of just dabbling in a few things to see what works best, and if you fail (which you inevitable will) – well, there wasn’t too much damage caused, and you don’t really need to feel the pain of it.
If you don’t feel a bit scared, then you’re not really moving out of your comfort zone. If you’re happy to stay in mediocre world, then make sure you don’t allow yourself to feel scared. And do ONLY what feels comfortable and safe.
The flip side, is to feel that fear and push through because when you believe in what you’re doing, your passion will override anything.
The moral of the story is to find out what is REALLY stopping you and admitting it. When I got really honest with myself and my Husband, I felt like a weight had lifted. Sure, I felt vulnerable and scared. At the same time I felt excited, light and free. It’s an amazing feeling when you are not hiding behind these protective barriers and no longer feel the need for so many of these bullshit layers that just weigh you down for nothing.
Quite simply – stay strong, true and disciplined! Love yourself enough to expect more from life, the people you serve, friends and family.
Monique Alamedine is a Writer + Intuitive Biz Coach + Life Strategist who believes that ‘success’ means being calm, centred & crazy ambitious – all at the same time.
She calls this being a Zen Hustler – and is on a mission to help you become one too.
She helps women in retail & service business make money doing what they love while ‘keeping it real’. Ain’t no sugar-coated fluff coming out of this Mumma’s mouth – expect straight from the heart home truths delivered with a big serving of love.
As a Zen Hustler, she mixes intuitive readings with kick-ass business strategy. Email Hustle@ZenHustler.com